Sometimes we have specific problems with our mother; sometimes, life with her can just be hard work. If there are difficulties in your (1)_____, it's best to deal with them, (2)_____ remember that any (3)_____ should be done (4)_____ person or by letter. The telephone is not a good (5)_____ because it is too easy (6)_____ either side to (7)_____ the conversation. Explain to her (8)_____ you find difficult in your relationship and then (9)_____ some new arrangements that you think would establish a (10)_____ balance between you. Sometimes we hold (11)_____ from establishing such boundaries because we are afraid that doing (12)_____ implies we are (13)_____ her. We need to remember that being (14)_____ from our mother does not (15)_____ mean that we no longer love her. If the conflict is (16)_____ and you cannot find a way to (17)_____ it, you might decide to give up your relationship with your mother for a while. Some of my patients had (18)_____ 'trial separations'. The (19)_____ allowed things to simmer down, enabling (20)_____.