A. inappropriate B. complimenting C. Unfortunately D. intelligence E. outfits F. brilliant G. admiration H. phenomenon I. peers J. sincere K. envious L. offered M.shocked N. professional O. unfortunately I was once in a relationship with a woman who was the most __1__ , creative and driven person I ’ d ever known. I told her these things often because she didn’t see herself this way, despite achieving great success and acclaim in her _ 2 __ fi eld. She was also gorgeous and sexy, though she seemed not to realize this either, so I told her these things too. But while I thought it was more important to praise her brilliance, it seemed to mean more to her that she was considered attractive. My experience with this girlfriend exempli fi es a common __ 3 __ in life when it comes to __ 4 __ a woman, men often walk a very dif fi cult line. Of course, context matters. In a professional setting, talking about appearance is often __ 5 __ , but at a singles club, it maybe important. She will be very pleased if a man thinks her clothes and accessories are pretty, or her hair looks wonderful. However, things in between these two cases are unclear. Women have every right to be recognized and appreciated for their __ 6 __ and creativity. But at the same time, they want to be admired for their looks as well, for example, their perfect skin complexion and elegant __ 7 __ . __ 8 __ , most guys don’t understand this.If we receive compliments from women, they’re usually about our achievements, not our looks.Most of, us don’t expect a woman to tell us how handsome sexy we are, and some of us would fi nd it hard to regard such a(n) comment as __ 9 __ . I’m not saying it’s very hard to be a guy these days. It is important for everyone to understand how to treat women with both respect and __1 0 __ . But as far as the right balance of these two is concerned, we really have no frame of reference, especially when it comes to looks.