七选五 The Art of Conversing In a world of 6.5 billion opinionated people, arguments are sure to happen. 36 But arguments can often lead to positive change — if you argue correctly. Argue well 37 In a healthy argument, one’s own goal should be to make the problems clear, to communicate the upset behind the problems, and to really move toward a solution. The minimum goal should be to preserve ( 维护 ) the relationship well enough to keep communication alive. What not to do Nothing kills a healthy argument like a personal attack, and personal attacks are a big no-no if you want an argument to end positively. For example, while I was making a public speech, someone interrupted ( 打断 ) and then corrected me. 38 I completely lost my temper ( 脾气 ), attacking that person directly and personally. Clearly I shouldn’t have done that. Don’t be afraid of the heat It’s true that personal problems must be left at the door. 39 Conflict ( 冲突 ) is acceptable in an argument as long as you stick to the subject. Attacking the other person is not useful. That kind of argument closes down the willingness on both sides to keep talking. 40 If you do find yourself in the thick of one, listening with an open mind can bring about a quick end to the argument and perhaps a positive solution. A. I later ended up in an argument. B. Many people see arguments as a bad part of life. C. Learning how to voice a different opinion works. D. Unpleasant arguments are just around the corner. E. But that doesn’t mean arguments won’t get heated. F. There certainly is such a thing as a “healthy argument”. G. By actively listening, many arguments can be avoided.