The Secrets of a Great Handshake It's something most of us do often. We shake hands with long-time friends, with acquaintances ( 熟人 ) and with strangers. In much of the world, the handshake is a part of the first impression that we make. Here are the secrets to a great handshake: 1. Start with eye contact and a smile. A great handshake isn't just about a physical gesture ; it is about connecting with the other person and conveying ( 传达 ) your pleasure to the other person. The best way to do that is with your face and your eyes. 2. Make a full handshake. Keep your hand open and make sure your handshake will be a hand shake, not a finger or palm ( 手掌 ) shake. That means your thumb ( 拇指 ) and palm should be tightly interlocked ( 互锁 ) with the other’s. This allows you to truly have a full handshake. 3. Firm, not strong. good handshake is firm but not overpowering ( 力气过大 ). A firm handshake shows your self-confidence , but too much strength makes the other person feel oppressed ( 压迫 ). Always make your grip firm, but make adjustments based on the firmness of the other person's grip. 4. Up and down, not back and forth. A good handshake has a nice up and down motion ( 动作 ), not a back and forth one, as if you were trying to saw some wood together. Again, adjust the motion to what seems natural and comfortable to the other person. 5. Adjust time. Some people prefer a long handshake; others prefer it much shorter. Observe the other person and adjust the time to the situation, how well you know the person, and what seems comfortable to them. 6. Consider your left hand. While it may not be suitable in some cultures, I often use my other hand to grasp ( 抓住 ) the other side of the person's hand or to touch his arm. This gesture makes the handshake warmer and more personal.